Do You Love Yourself? 8 Reasons Loving Yourself Gets You What You Want

Do you believe in the power of self love? Do you love yourself? Do you even LIKE yourself?

A few years ago, I went through a period of self-hate.

I had lost my job and I couldn’t find another one, my dad and a grandchild both passed away, and I fell into depression.

I gained a lot of weight and on top of that I had an allergic reaction to a facial cream that ended up leaving scars on my face. I was making the same financial and personal mistakes over and over. I was disgusted with myself.

Needless to say, it was a time when I didn’t really like myself. I didn’t have confidence in myself and my skills.

I’ve asked myself over and over again if I love myself  for the past 6 months. I was at a point in my life where I knew in my heart things had to change or I would  never get what I wanted out of my life.

With help and a lot of positive self talk, I am finally learning to love myself.

I tell you this story not for pity but to help you understand the power of self love and positive affirmations. Positive affirmations lead to a healthier body and can help heal emotional wounds as well.

I tell you this story not for pity but to help you understand the power of self-love and positive affirmations. Positive affirmations lead to a healthier body, mindset and can help heal emotional wounds as well.

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So, you’re probably saying, “That’s great for you, but I don’t know how to begin to love myself”.

I’m going to tell you that you do. You have everything you need right now to begin changing that self-hate, doubt and fear into one of total self-love.


It begins with daily POSITIVE self-talk using affirmations.

Affirmations are positive, detailed statements that help you to overcome those self-sabotaging, negative thoughts. Use them to help you visualize, and believe in, what you’re telling yourself, helping you to make positive changes to your life.

Affirmations are often used in business and goal setting, but they can be used in any situation where you’d like to see a positive change take place.

For example when you want to:

Control any negative feelings like frustration, anger, or impatience.

  • Improve your self-esteem and confidence.
  • Finish things you’ve started.
  • Improve your productivity.
  • Learn from past mistakes.

Let me give you some examples of personal affirmations you can use in place of negative thoughts.

“I have plenty of creativity for this project” instead of “I can’t do this project because I’m not creative enough”.


“I can do this!” instead of “I can’t do this because….”


“My opinion is respected and valued by others” instead of “No one wants to know what I think. I’m not smart enough”.


”I am successful” instead of “I’m not good enough”.


“I learn from my mistakes” instead of “I’ll just make the same mistake again”.


“I am beautiful inside and out” instead of “I am ugly” or “I’m fat” or “I am a bad person”.


“I love myself for who I am right now” instead of “I hate myself”.


“I’m grateful for my life I have right now” instead of “I don’t like anything about my life”.


“I am excellent at what I do” instead of “I have no talent”.


“I am happy” instead of “I’m mad” or “I have nothing to be happy about”.


Believe in Yourself. It’s impossible to love yourself without actually believing in yourself. Believing in yourself can be difficult at times, especially when nothing is going the right way.

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Here are my top 8 reasons why loving yourself gets you what you want:

  1. You are the only one who can make yourself happy. No one else can make you happy if you don’t want to be happy.
  2. Accepting yourself for who you are lets you grow and see the bigger picture. You are the result of all your experiences, thoughts, and your DNA. You are unique. Accepting yourself means you will only want what is best for yourself.  If you always find fault in yourself, you get stuck in small-mindedness. You’ll never be happy. Expand your thinking and love who you are.
  3. Being proud of yourself and the value you offer the world builds your confidence. Invest in yourself to learn and grow. When you don’t think you deserve anything wonderful, you don’t allow yourself to have it. If you keep relying on the same old information or doing the same things the same old way, you’ll continue to make the same mistakes.
  4. Loving yourself helps you love what you are doing and what is right for you. You are happy and beaming with joy when you love yourself. This joy comes out in what you do.
  5. Taking care of yourself is a form of loving yourself. You’re an asset to others when you feel good. You’re more fun to be around. You inspire others and are enthusiastic about life. When you take care of yourself you are able to be more helpful to others.
  6. Once you love yourself and put yourself first, others will want to follow you. You’re leading by example. You’re fulfilled, overflowing with happiness and helpful, but not expecting something in return.
  7. Loving yourself helps you enjoy life and want to explore it. You learn more, you become better at stretching yourself and getting more ideas you act on.
  8. When you love yourself, you chase your own dreams not someone else’s. You don’t depend on other people’s opinions for approval. When you put yourself first you become more independent with inner confidence and a sense of peace. You follow your own path, creating your own happiness.


I’m still a work in progress but every day I work on finding ways to love myself. Positive affirmations and taking the time to take care of me are both top priorities in my day now.

How about you? Do you love yourself? Are you using self-care and positive self-talk?


I’d love it if you’d try these tips. Then come back here and tell me the results.


Love and Happiness,



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